What are the negative impacts of divorce on children?
More children are fearful, confused, sad, angry, hurt and distress within the meaning, or been told about their parents divorce. Interestingly, these are the same emotions that parents often experience during the process of divorce. It is no secret that there are many possible negative impacts children experience both during and after a divorce.These negative effects are compounded when parents are fighting over "reservation" and to minimize when parents to parental decisions together, out of sincere concern for the needs of their children. The list of possible negative effects is long and includes:
o Sadness and depression
o Anger, aggression and acting
o section and non-compliance
o Impulsivity
o loss of parental Perceived
o less parental supervision, consistent discipline and/or contact
o Damage extended family relations
o Lower academic achievement
o Interpersonal conflict
o Economic difficulty
o Stress
o Lower self-concept
o problems with social adaptation
What is the "battle of custody" for families (Promoting war)
Many parents divorcing to deny that the soon to be ex-spouse is still a part of their family; however, the fact that they are divorced parenting does not end the relationship.Although you do not live together, often come into contact with children, at least until the youngest child is eighteen and often longer.In a battle of custody, parents who try to "prove" parent what is the better parent instead of the parent undertaking which is the better parent can.Instead of managing their negative feelings and working together to find the best ways to exploit the advantages of both parents, parents often put their children in the middle and playing tug-a-war '.Over this legal war each parent uses their time, energy and resources to "fight" before the Court of Justice during which is the best.As they do so, often derogatory and try to discredit the other parent. What is a download from this "parent behavior" children teach children messages?:
o to discredit others
o to be secretive
o can trust one or both parents
o to get your way at all costs
o to hide the fact that they love the other parent
o The list goes on and
How can the help of Parenting coordination? (Promotes peace)
In almost all cases, it is better for children to have continued contact with both parents.In any case it is better for children to be free from parental conflict.The fact that the parenting Coordinator is impartial and therefore do not align with the parent or is vital to the effectiveness of the procedure for coordination of parenting; this neutrality promotes a safe environment for parents in this secure environment parents to remove and manage the pain, frustration, fear, distress and sorrow associated with separation and divorce long enough to negotiate parenting solutions uses not only the advantages of both parents but also to keep the needs of children as a top priority. during the process of coordination parenting a qualified mental health uses skills learned over many years of training and experience to help parents:
o Manage their emotions
o Communication more efficiently
the information about the impact of conflict on children
o learn about children's development needs
o Negotiate appropriate limits post-divorce or separation
o Tracking their children's needs
o Identify mutually agreeable parenting objectives
o brainstorm options for achieving objectives
o Evaluate options to arrive at agreements within legal guidelines
With a signed agreement for the exchange of information, parents and parenting Coordinator are free to communicate with the parent's legal service to exchange the necessary information. this freedom is useful, as it is for the parenting Coordinator to record written agreements, in such a way as to make it more efficient final documents the parenting Coordinator helped to reach agreements that meet the needs of his parents, he promotes information on two lawyers.
An additional advantage that the parenting Coordinator is due to availability through the years, such as the family of the necessary change of children's needs when changing or if a conflict arises between the parents, parenting Coordinator, knowing the background and how they had reached their agreements may be available for consultation with parents negotiate agreements re-in contrast to start a law suit.
When children in coordination exploited?
Children may be chosen by the parents, on their own, or at the request of the lawyers at any point in the process of divorce or separation. initiation of the proceeding slowly gives larger capacity to minimize the negative impact; however, it is also beneficial because parents have already spent countless hours and resources in a battle "reservation"; When parents are ordered by the Court to engage children in coordination, there is still great potential for improved results for the family. Thus, where there is better coordination parenting used? placement answer is simple: the sooner the better, but is better than at any time!
Chesley c. Swanson, LMSW a kalesthi Austin Area
http://www.parentingspecialist.com
Chesley@parentingspecialist.com
512-784-4888
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