What is the definition of "good parent" is someone nurturing? someone who is a disciplinarian; someone who is a friend; perhaps the "good parent" with each of these qualities and many more. The challenge of parenting is that each parent should come to know the child--and themselves--and critical decisions about the type of the parent. I believe that the definition of "good parent is a parent that their children to live a life where the parent is no longer needed. In short, a parent that allows you to be "not appropriate" might be the parent of the duty to have children.
My children, 18 and 17, continue towards that ultimate goal. Make decisions every day that is increasingly "their own". In my teaching work of children in a local Community centre is often asked by clients, "what makes a good mother"; because the task of parenting is so daunting and every parent and child is so unique, it is a reflection of my approach carefully and with great humility.Still, I think the best parenting makes for a better world and that parenting is shared with others who have lived and learned to Follow my suggestions:.
1 Say "Yes" to the extent possible; Saying Yes does not mean without limits.You can say, "Yes, you may have a cookie AFTER you eat your dinner." or Yes, you can play with your friend after you clean your room. "
2, you loose, but don't let go. Of course, is a rock song, but it works in most relationships, particularly children. The objective of parenting is to become independent in any way addicts: social, economic, intellectual and emotional. Comparing good parenting in a slope leading. The first fives years is about the basics: getting all the gear required together, get comfortable, finding the Groove. This course is difficult, and sometimes exhausting work.Over the next five years is the trek up to the mountain where issues of trust in the relationship between parenting are the thinnest. ask children, can count on you? "during these hours and parents must answer back," Real ". Over the next five years is the trek that when it comes to simply guiding and enjoying the ride and recovering from any commitment. The characteristics of this stage is a celebration and reflection.
3 Know the difference, and Testament.A Covenant is an agreement that is based on a person that a contract is an agreement that is based on two persons. Parenting is a testament to the love is there for children at any cost, expense or effort on their part.My kids can't win my love, my to give. There are things in the relationship, however, that have contractual agreements, not necessarily in the legal sense, but with the meaning of the agreement. " When you have finished your work, we're going to the movie. "or when your qualities grow, you can access with the car.
4 my children are not "my". I am grateful (and modest) for part of the process of creating my children, but these are not my own. Not theirs and, in fact, the role must offer them the opportunity to be "boss themselves" not for me to be the "boss".
5 is my children not to continue my dreams. What a huge burden is for children to fight under the parents hopes and dreams. I want my children to have their own dreams, you will not be burdened with reality, dreams of my life. This means that when it comes to the minefield of life--either transport or physcially-I can cheer for my child and the group.My children are not to fight in my past regardless how glorious or sad.
6 Speak the truth in life, wherever possible.Parenting is an opportunity for parents to create an opportunity where children see themselves in the history of life. This means that parents can speak literally what may be in the lives of their children, whenever possible; therefore, messages that parents give their children is very important because the child's parent is the image they see themselves. Sometimes it may sound like a fiction story when you say, "I know you'd be getting __ ___ goal!" And sometimes can be the impossible dream. The objective of the dreams is to create a new reality that can be done simply, see possibilities, good with the bad, the impossible possible.
On the contrary, it is the role of parents to instruct the child in areas where it can fit more. While never discourage my children to try new things I can see where you may have more natural and can encourage their development in music, arts and Athletics when he can.The final decision on where I go, however, is their own.
7 is a screw up-I believe that children need guidance, not perfection.In fact, I believe that the role of parenting is the creation of integration is not perfection.Parenting, by design, is both parents formation as children.This approach is modest for parenting is transformational that parents learn about themselves and the world through the process of good parenting, as children.
8 companion for # 7-Say "sorry" quickly-I have no problem saying "I made it!" for my children.The reality is I blow it daily. While it is humbling to realize that my kids math skills already know more than ever, it is also reassuring.Parent cannot know all nor can any parent is everything for the child; a parent can, however, let us know that their children are cared for and that is not only.
9 Have a partner-either married or not, parents need support. I am grateful for my husband of 21 years who are gifted in ways that I never like our children grew up I am comforted in my husband how to untangle a link with our children. sometimes my parenting skill sets may be more appropriate for a given situation. Knowing the needs of children and what is needed now is a skill to be learned, as you know your child; please be patient with the process and with yourself.(See 7 & 8 above!)
10 Pray a lot-I believe that children are part of the life of an author who knows everything before taking a first ever actually. This is my prayer murky days of children, "you know what they need, to help them but me."
Maurie Traylor is the parent of two teenagers, holds a BS in family relationships and the development of the child from the University of Oklahoma and teaches Nurturing children for Tulsa Parent child Center. it considers that we can learn a lot of good parenting skills, and good to parents for a better world.
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