Single Parent Strategies

I was a single parent for the first four years of the life of my son. Today, there are two kinds of parent: those who are co-parenting with a non-resident parent, and those who simply by raising their children alone. I was in the latter category, and you know what? I liked it. Of course, there were times when it was difficult and I felt resentful and angry at having to share the expense-or first smiles-. But for the most part, it would be nice that a single MOM for a reason: should not jeopardise any about how to increase my child. I knew that this would never be spanked, that this will rise to positive, loving environment; whereas this should be taught my spiritual beliefs-he will be disciplined in an appropriate manner.

The single parent, with or without a co-parent is a particular challenge. Then, you will find two sets of single-parenting strategies, one for each type of single parent.Taking the time to implement strategies one at a time gives you and your children the space to get used to new ways to Try them, see how they work for you, tweak them as required, and the creation of your dreams!

Strategies for non-Resident Co-Parents

o Respect: importance not what it seems like your personal relationship with your co-parent (and, where appropriate, his/her spouse), you need to talk about European with respect in front of your children if you need to vent, call a friend or your MOM, or contact your dog, but never, never refers to the parent of the child. There must be something good about your co-parent, both focus and let things go. Remember, always for the remainder of your life, you will have co-parents, so that you can make the best of it.

o common point: the most successful co-parenting groups have teamed up to make sure that children are getting the same type of discipline and support in both houses.One of the best ways to do this is to define your values and use them as a guidepost for both houses. Write, make a poster or collage and stop responding every home has your child more coherence, the happier you.

o Programming: co-parent schedule can be a nightmare to establish and keep up with.For a child which border between two houses, having a regular schedule, with both parents attend special events, is the key. regardless of how it works, to work, so that your child has a predictable, simple and never have to guess where they are and who will be taking care of him.

o Communication: keeping lines of communication open with your family-not only with your co-parent, but also your children. The more your children see you communicate with healthy ways, the more you trust that we will hear them when things get hard. Recent studies show that early learning this lesson, you will have more open as teenagers. Therefore, talk and listen to your co-parent and children.

Strategies for parents:

o Village: creating a healthy group of adults who your child trust is vital for the parent. Remember that your child will learn that this is secure in the world without you, and if you isolate it together, you will learn how to trust others. Other critical piece creating a healthy adult for your child is in balance between the sexes.Your child will need examples of healthy men and women to learn from and after the pattern. When I was a single MOM, I prayed every day for my son to be surrounded by healthy male role models and he was (and is).

o Self-Care: I know from experience that "single parent" and "self care" may seem like two mutually exclusive groups. it is not! Find ways to make time for yourself each day.If you have the option of time cleaning the House kapitone between taking a hot bath, take a bath.Record can lead to emotional outbursts exhausted, and could even abuse of children.First care of yourself is the best way to take care of your child.Remember, you must fill your pitcher pointer before you can fill up your child's Cup!

o Crop skills: (a) single-parent does not have a co-parent to challenge the parenting patterns, so it is very easy to return to unhealthy, old ways of being.Do everything you can to learn new parenting skills: reading books, online research, friends and co-workers talk about strategies that work, to join a group of single-parent support ... do what you can learn more about work really hard to become the best parent you can make and parenting.

o Discipline: sometimes it is easy for a parent to leave things slide in comfortable, but also unhealthy patterns.Take a good look at the latest 48 hours in your household was respectful of your children? Useful; Happy?You feel good about your family? if not, it is time for some changes. changes in family patterns can be difficult at first, but it doesn't matter how young people are your children, talk to them, explain why you want to change the rules and new rules. then do! If after three weeks, things haven't improved, re-evaluate the rules appropriate for those ... your children and your family; your appropriate consequences for them; the creation of healthy boundaries is critical for any parent, but mainly for the parent.

I remember, is a parent can be challenging, but it is also an amazing adventure!

Speaking directly from the MOM who's have anywhere and knows how to help your family: Shelly Walker is a mother of two beautiful children, and the activated Power and the forthcoming book children keys. Shelly is passionate about children and believes that every child deserves to be healthy, happy parents. website http://www.parentingkeys.com, has great information and free tools that help parents having successful empowered children.